Matters of the Heart

Love is definately one of the most difficult subjects/topics that exists in this universise. It is the most complex idea to grasp and something that I believe people will truly never really understand. Young adults my age boast of finding love every day, whether it is a significant other on campus, or someone they have waiting for them back at home. I walk around this small campus and very often seen couples walking hand in hand, or sneaking one last smooch before heading to their next class. I honestly think that this is all fine and dandy, but I do NOT think that these people have the slightest idea of what love really is.

I believe that I do not totally grasp the whole idea of what love is, but I think that if someone really takes the time out to examine it and what it entails, they have a slight edge over someone who has not. Love is not simply the attraction to one's opposite and the desire to be around them 24/7, but rather an understanding of the self, and how that other person fits into it. When someone has finally found love, it is probably the most gratifying feeling on the face of the earth. Achieving the feeling once you have found someone is not hard, but actually finding THAT PERSON is what most people have trouble with.

People in today's world try and live their lives according to what they hear and see on television and radio. Everyone wants a fairytale ending to their love lives, and are in a great hurry to get it. Because of this, people really do not take the time out to really gain an adequate understanding of the other person. They simply know that they are very attracted to the other person and that he/she makes them smile. This is not enough. Alot of time must be spent with this other person, and in my opinion years, to really love someone. During this time, one learns of the other's good qualities and bad qualities, great attributes and the not so great ones. People are in such a rush to achieve that 24/7 love drama they see on FRIENDS, that purposefully overlook the qualities that they would never accept in any other person.

Love comes with experice and hardship, as well as with communication and fun times. There is no possible way that young adults my age can really know what love is, because for someone of us, we have never known what it is like to fall for someone before, so the first time it happens, we are convinced that this girl or guy is the one they will love forever. Young people are delusional and this will never change. All of us want someone that we can lay with at night and share secrets with, or hold hands at a ball game, but we just go about it in the wrong ways.

I, along with countless others have been the subject of heartbreak, but I have come to the realization that it was because things were rushed. I was in such a need for a female to share experiences with, that in actuality, I was only hurting myself in the long run. When that person comes along, things will just feel easy. A smile will automatically creep along your face when you least expect it, and butterflies will float around in your stomach. These are all good things, but you have to see if they last. I you can honestly wake up everyday and feel those things constantly then you are on your path to finding true love. Love comes with experience and age. So if you think that you are very much in love now, wait it out and see if it lasts.